Okay. Not really. No one wants conflict.

Like everyone else, I prefer to avoid conflict. It makes me uncomfortable just thinking about it.

However, in newer relationships, I have to admit, that I get a little excited when I see conflict raising its ugly head.

Why?

Because conflict will either draw two people together or push them apart.

I know. It is easier to avoid it. This feels safe.

But I have come to find that … and this is really the key…

…you are not close to anyone with whom you have not had conflict.

Think about it. Who are the people you are closest to? Have you gone through conflict with them?

Conflict has a funny way of bonding people to one another.

No, the takeaway is not to go out and cause conflict. It will come on its own. The takeaway is to not be scared, to not avoid it.

What about you? Have you found it to be true that conflict has actually pulled you closer to someone?